My new beginning - 2018

Dealing with a stalker

Most people don't understand stalking. They think a stalker is just someone who follows you around, but that's not necessarily what a stalker will do. Some people might not know they're being stalked. I didn't fully understand until I spoke with the national stalking helpline.

Sometimes a stalker will do things like go out of their way to make sure you see or hear them. They could try to break into your home to physically attack you or try to kill you. They might damage your property, and they might tell lies about you in order to get you in trouble, or to get other people to hate you and possibly attack you. My current stalker has done all the above; but another stalker might be different.

My current stalker is desperate for me to notice him. He keeps doing small little things. When I returned from my short holiday, he was in my street within' one hour of me returning, to make sure I saw him; and when I checked the property I saw that the air vent to my bedroom had been smashed in, as shown in the above photos, and it was undamaged when I left five days before. There was no other damage done to the property, just my bedroom air-vent, and my stalker knows which is my bedroom! Additionally when we went out one evening to celebrate my nephew's 18th birthday, my stalker made sure his car was parked in next doors drive, so I would know that he's around.

These things may sound harmless and trivial, but the stress they cause to you is immense. You have no idea what they're going to do next. He'll either get bored and eventually move on, or I'll have to take civil legal action, or he could go too far and the police will prosecute him, or I could die from all the stress. The trouble is, if he goes too far, how far will he go? I just have to wait and see, until then I have to try and manage to cope with the stress and keep ignoring him, while I'm trying to sort my own life out!